Posts Tagged ‘Alcoholism’

Elation

Submitted by Ron on January 10th, 2011

Consider that elation is often an emotion you must first give yourself permission to feel. If you remind yourself that life need not be serious all the time, the minor moments of pleasure that manifest themselves in your life today can be a major source of happiness. You will likely find many reasons to smile, no matter what the universe has in store for you.

Unexplored Influences

Submitted by Ron on January 5th, 2011

You may be surprised to find yourself thinking about individuals you have not seen or spoken with in quite some time today, and the nostalgia you feel while reminiscing can put you in a contemplative mood. This can be an auspicious time to reflect upon your past relationships to determine how they impacted the developmental path you have taken. You may discover today that individuals who touched your life briefly made a large-scale impression upon you or that you have followed a path similar to that trod by a close relative. If you sense that you have been unduly influenced by certain people, your thoughtfulness can help you decide how to respond.

As we reflect upon our past relationships, we discover that the people we spent time with over the years have had a great deal of impact on our attitudes, preferences, and beliefs. Whether we understand these influences to be positive or negative aspects of our lives, we must endeavor to comprehend them before we can deal with them in a concrete fashion. When we see clearly how others have shaped us, we are empowered to decide if we want to continue living in the manner we were taught to live or if we feel it is time for a change. Since we can identify specific influences, we can embrace or eradicate them as benefits our individual needs and desires. You can channel your nostalgia into your evolutionary endeavors today when you are willing to look back upon your past with a thoughtful eye.

Self-Sufficient Satisfaction

Submitted by Ron on December 12th, 2010



You may gain a sense of satisfaction today from being self-sufficient. It can give you a feeling of confidence and independence to be able to complete all that you wish to accomplish without having to rely on anyone else. Once we have established this, we are free to invite others to help on projects not because we need them, but because we appreciate what they have to offer. Human beings are not meant to live alone, so becoming self-sufficient need not mean that we no longer live in a community with others. But having the confidence to assert our personal power and do what we choose to do rather than being forced to by circumstances gives us a sense of fulfillment. Today you can be proud of your ability to take care your own needs while appreciating those who offer their assistance.

Once we have the knowledge that we can take care of ourselves, then we can concentrate upon the things we enjoy doing, and let other people do the rest. In a family this may mean that you choose to do the gardening while your spouse does the cooking. In a company it might lead to subcontracting certain aspects of a project so that you can concentrate on your specialty. Ideally, this is how our communities are built, with each person bringing their own talents and abilities to the group so that we may all benefit, not out of need, but out of choice. Today you have the confident independence to stand on your own and appreciate the contributions others make to your life.

Why The Steps Work

Submitted by admin on November 22nd, 2010

Those who have addiction problems go to many organizations to get cured, and the Alcoholics Anonymous is in the front line among all those. This organization has become so popular over the years and a main reason for that is the tremendous success of their 12 step program. This program has successfully cured many individuals and returned them to the society – to family and friends as cured. So the 12 step program is just right for all those wanting to cure alcoholism and drug problems and regain self control and acceptance in the society. This program has become for many as a one-point reference point of solving addiction problems.

As the name suggests, the 12 step program comprises of 12 steps. Here are the various steps.

Step One: Giving up the power and accepting the fact that the use of alcohol, drugs and other elements has made the person lose control over his life. Accepting this as a fact is a useful first step.

Step Two & Three: These steps involve submission to God or a higher power. Actually belief in God is the second step while turning the life to God involves the third. This is one area where the 12 step program has been criticized. Many call it too religious.

Step Four & Five: Here are steps that also have some religion in it. These steps involve morality and confessions to self, to acquaintances and then finally to God.

Step Six: This step is quite passive and has been criticized as well. Almost the same as step 1, here the addict assumes that he is powerless in front of God who will then help the individual to recover, remove the negative forces and get back into the original condition.

Step Seven, Eight & Nine: These steps involve the process of expressing regret and asking for forgiveness for the various mistakes committed.

Step Ten, Eleven & Twelve: Morality is part of the tenth step as well. In the next step, the addict has to get close to God through prayers. In the last step the addict is supposed to achieve spiritual awakening. This awakening will automatically make him recover and despise drugs, alcoholism and other types of addictions.

The 12 step program encourages the former addict to speak of his addiction problems, his challenges and how the situation was turned around. The success story will work as an encouragement for others.

Though it has been successful, the 12 step program has been criticized from many quarters. While some say that the program is too religious, others feel that in the program, the addict is perceived as helpless and needs to depend on God and a higher force. There is no need to take matters in own hand.

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What about emotional toxins?

Submitted by Ron on October 15th, 2010

Deepak Chopra on Releasing Emotional Toxins - Click here to watch this video

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Many people take the time and effort to cleanse themselves of physical toxins, but what about emotional toxins? These negative emotions can drain your energy and health and cause unnecessary stress. Learn mind-body medicine guru Deepak Chopra’s seven steps to releasing emotional toxicity.

Your Role In Your Life

Submitted by Ron on October 5th, 2010

Every drama has a cast of characters — a hero, a villain, the best friend, the sidekick and the guy that dies in the first act … just to name a few. Real life is just the same. We have our everyday roles, from parent to spouse to boss or employee. Role-playing comes naturally to humans, who grow up learning to be many different characters in the course of a lifetime.

But what if you also have a deeper and more enduring role related to your mission on planet earth? What if a cosmic casting director assigned you a part that is all about your life purpose? You would want to know as much as possible about this role of yours — the highlights and challenges and most of all, your character’s motivation and purpose in the story. To play your part well, you at least need to know who you are playing.

Use the meditation below to help find your SELF

authself  right click to download or just click to listen

Don’t Be A Victim Of Frustration

Submitted by admin on March 2nd, 2010

People need motivation to carry them through a variety of
activities. If you have ever dreamed of performing in a
symphony orchestra, or playing the lead in a play; getting
that book published, or landing that dream job, frustration
is something you will have to deal with. So, the question
facing you is, how do you stay motivated when faced with
frustration?

Paying The Right Price

Step one is to realize that nothing worth achieving is going
to come easily. To become a great musician, actor, singer
etc. requires training and practice. If you want to write a
great book, the next great American novel, you need to learn
about plot structure, character arcs etc. and write, write,
write! When trying to get a good job, you need to have the
skills the company wants, and be ready when they have an
opening.

Then comes the frustration. No matter how good you are at
whatever it is you do, you will probably not succeed at your
first attempt. The reason: there are so many other people
with the same abilities. Look at a show like “American
Idol”. How many times have you seen a singer you thought
should stay on get tossed off? How often have you applied
for that perfect job, or auditioned for that great role,
only to miss out?

Why Become Better

This is where step two comes into play. You have to accept
that you are not the only person suited for whatever it is
that you are striving to achieve. Often times getting what
you comes down to good timing, networking, and a bit of
luck. Yet, this does not mean that you give up. This is
where you use step three to keep you focused. Review all of
your talents, and look for areas to improve and hone them.

Look around your community; are there classes you can take,
or groups you can join to help you on the path to success?
Along those same lines, a class or book that addresses the
issue of motivation can be helpful. Remember, when trying to
achieve something, no matter what it is, frustration is a
common stumbling block. So, just learning about methods of
motivation can really help you to stay focused on your goal.

What Winners Know

Next, reviewing the accomplishments of others can help you
to deal with the frustrations of your own life. Look at
Thomas Edison, and his quest to create the electric light
bulb. For that matter, look at any of his inventions. With
virtually everything he created, he faced frustration again
and again as experiment after experiment failed.

His attitude? He looked upon those failures as merely
experiments that he did not have to do again.
Abraham Lincoln faced frustration again and again as he
struggled to find a competent general to lead the Union
Army. He took solace in his faith; he was certain that God
was with him, and the Union.

Are You Supported?

A lot of times, that can be the key: finding out what are
the things that help you to stay motivated. Is it your
faith; is it your support system or friends and family?
Whatever it is you rely on, the critical factor is a
positive attitude. If you surround yourself with people who
are forever negative, always looking down on things,
chronically “glass half empty” sorts, then you are going to
find it hard to stay motivated. So, that is why a strong
support system is vital.

Finally, an excellent means of staying motivated is to look
at others who have succeeded in the face of adversity.
Consider someone like author J.K. Rowling; she was “on the
dole” as they say in the UK, on public assistance, when she
wrote the first “Harry Potter” book. Yet, today, she’s said
to be richer than the Queen of England. If that isn’t
motivation for a writer, nothing is!

People who don`t get a handle of killing frustration live
very difficult, stressful lives. Make sure that the agony of
frustration does not rob you of your dreams and truly
enjoying life to the full.

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Planning Recovery During the Holidays

Submitted by Ron on December 19th, 2009

This feature was written by Hamish White a certified alcoholism and drug dependency counselor who has his own addiction practice called Recovery Counseling Services in North Toronto. Hamish and his team provide out-patient individual and group counseling to adolescents adults and family members.

Plan B

If you must attend a party or gathering where alcohol is being served, then have a Plan B, an escape route.  If you are with a friend or partner then tell them before you go that you may feel uncomfortable around alcohol and that you need to be able to leave the party on a moment’s notice without having to explain why.  In fact, you can always have an alternative place to go – like for a coffee or out to a movie.  The Pressure Is Off With this arrangement, negotiated when you arrive at the gathering, tell your host or hosts that you can probably only stay for a short time, but that you will know more in a while after you make a telephone call. Then you are not obliged to stay and what usually happens is that you have a great time because the pressure to stay is off. If you are on your own, make sure you have your sponsor’s or a sober friend’s phone number and that you know they will be home so that you can call or even meet with them if you feel the need.

That’s “Plan B.” Thanks I’d Love a Drink! What if someone asks you if you would like a drink, and you don’t particularly feel like explaining to them that you have a disease that requires you not to drink one day at a time, and that you are a recent graduate of the local dipsomania treatment center.  What I do is say “What a good idea I would love a drink! Do you have a soda-water with lemon or a Coca-Cola?” This allows me to say yes and get what I want as well. Very few people will press anything alcoholic on us, but when they do I simply say, “Not right now, thank you, but a Coke would really hit the spot.” Stay away from Christmas cake rum balls and dubious punches and eggnog. Just a little of the old taste can start us urging for a more substantial dose.

A.A./ N.A/O.A Still Meets! During the celebratory season,

In fact, many groups have seasonal parties where food and fellowship abounds, and speakers talk of gratitude and of the real spirit of giving that is outlined in the 12th Step. Members are warm and inviting and most are serene in the knowledge that there is a safe place for them to be. Anyone with a desire to stop drinking or to stay sober and clean is welcome. Out-Smart the Disease Remember, alcoholism and addiction are not only physical diseases, they are also spiritual emotional and mental diseases. Which, of course, is what we are as people. My alcoholism is as smart as I am and then just a little bit smarter. My alcoholism wants me to drink, therefore it wants me to be in slippery places like wet Christmas or New Year parties. I have to be careful – I have to outsmart my disease. I need to be connected to sober people. I need to be doing sober things, going to sober places. I can’t let the Christmas season be an excuse for a relapse. I may be on holiday but my chemical dependency does not take a holiday. Ultimately, the only way to say sober over the holidays is the same way I stay sober all year round, that is, one day at a time.

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